In a podcast episode of lieber lieben, I had the opportunity to speak to Frauke - and this conversation moved me deeply. Frauke experienced the unimaginable in a short space of time: the loss of her husband and, shortly afterwards, a diagnosis of breast cancer. A mastectomy without reconstruction. And yet - or perhaps precisely because of this - she radiates a vitality that resonates with me for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What Frauke describes is something I know from my therapeutic work: those moments when life brings us to our knees and we believe we can no longer get up - and it is precisely there, in this absolute darkness, that the deepest potential for change often lies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
3.5 months on the brink of death - and the gift of a conscious farewell<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Frauke describes the time of saying goodbye to her husband not only as a loss, but also as a gift. A full 3.5 months together, with awareness, with love. How rarely do we have this opportunity. It reminds me how important it is to stay in touch - with ourselves, with those we love - even before life forces us to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Frauke also talks about how she rediscovered lust and physicality - without breasts, but not without sensitivity. She calls it \u201esoul sex\u201d. This is not an esoteric concept for me, but something that I observe time and again in therapy: When we stop judging our bodies and start inhabiting them, something opens up. Body image and self-love are not superficial issues - they are central to our experience of closeness and connection.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Gold in the mud<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The image Frauke brings with her is: there is gold in the deepest mud. This is not a promise that pain is worth it. It's an invitation to look - instead of running away. That is the core of my work: not to manage the crisis, but to explore what it shows us about ourselves and about life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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In einer Podcast-Folge von lieber lieben durfte ich mit Frauke sprechen \u2013 und dieses Gespr\u00e4ch hat mich tief bewegt. Frauke hat in kurzer Zeit das Unvorstellbare erlebt: den Verlust ihres Mannes und kurz darauf die Diagnose Brustkrebs. Eine Mastektomie ohne Wiederaufbau. Und dennoch \u2013 oder vielleicht gerade deshalb \u2013 strahlt sie eine Lebendigkeit aus, die […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":835,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","_seopress_robots_follow":"","_seopress_robots_imageindex":"","_seopress_robots_snippet":"","_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_robots_breadcrumbs":"","_seopress_robots_freeze_modified_date":"","_seopress_robots_custom_modified_date":"","_seopress_robots_canonical":"","_seopress_social_fb_title":"","_seopress_social_fb_desc":"","_seopress_social_fb_img":"","_seopress_social_fb_img_attachment_id":0,"_seopress_social_fb_img_width":0,"_seopress_social_fb_img_height":0,"_seopress_social_twitter_title":"","_seopress_social_twitter_desc":"","_seopress_social_twitter_img":"","_seopress_social_twitter_img_attachment_id":0,"_seopress_social_twitter_img_width":0,"_seopress_social_twitter_img_height":0,"_seopress_redirections_value":"","_seopress_redirections_enabled":"","_seopress_redirections_enabled_regex":"","_seopress_redirections_logged_status":"","_seopress_redirections_param":"","_seopress_redirections_type":0,"_seopress_analysis_target_kw":"","_seopress_news_disabled":"","_seopress_video_disabled":"","_seopress_video":[],"_seopress_pro_schemas_manual":[],"_seopress_pro_rich_snippets_disable_all":"","_seopress_pro_rich_snippets_disable":[],"_seopress_pro_schemas":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"class_list":["post-3599","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-allgemein"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.feldarbeit-eb.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3599","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.feldarbeit-eb.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.feldarbeit-eb.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.feldarbeit-eb.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.feldarbeit-eb.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3599"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.feldarbeit-eb.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3599\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3600,"href":"https:\/\/www.feldarbeit-eb.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3599\/revisions\/3600"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.feldarbeit-eb.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/835"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.feldarbeit-eb.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3599"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.feldarbeit-eb.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3599"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}