{"id":1452,"date":"2025-10-25T17:33:45","date_gmt":"2025-10-25T15:33:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.feldarbeit-eb.de\/?p=1452"},"modified":"2025-11-18T17:37:24","modified_gmt":"2025-11-18T16:37:24","slug":"the-limits-of-openness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.feldarbeit-eb.de\/en\/die-grenzen-der-offenheit\/","title":{"rendered":"The limits of openness"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>When freedom becomes too much<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>K. came to me with a story I hear so often: he had told his partner M. that he wanted to live openly. She had agreed. But then, when he really fell in love, when he really entered into a relationship with another woman, everything fell apart for M.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>\u201cI was scared.\u201d<\/strong>, She said, \u201eI had always felt that it wasn't just about the physical aspect. And at some point I said: Okay, just do what feels right for you. But I was so scared.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The two sat next to each other in the constellation seminar. \u201c<strong>I cannot give her what she needs.<\/strong>\u201dShe has a great need for security, and I cannot fulfil that,\u201c he said.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When they faced each other in the constellation, I said to M.: \u201cYou cannot convince him. And he cannot convince you. You cannot negotiate this together; sometimes love alone is not enough. <strong>Sometimes you have to accept that the other person's way of life is not compatible with your own.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sometimes relationship types just don't fit together. Not because someone is wrong, but because the needs are so different that compromise is no longer possible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cI respect your boundaries and I respect your life movement\u201d is a profound acceptance of what is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Traumatic experiences of separation, different needs for security, or simply different life plans can cause a relationship to fail. Recognising this is not a weakness \u2013 it is a strength.<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Wenn Freiheit zu viel wird K. kam zu mir mit einer Geschichte, die ich so oft h\u00f6re: Er hatte seiner Partnerin M. gesagt, dass er offen leben m\u00f6chte. Sie hatte zugestimmt. Aber dann, als er sich wirklich verliebte, als er wirklich eine Beziehung mit einer anderen Frau einging, brach f\u00fcr M. alles zusammen. \u201cIch hatte [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":1254,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"none","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"class_list":{"0":"post-1452","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-allgemein"},"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.feldarbeit-eb.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1452","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.feldarbeit-eb.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.feldarbeit-eb.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.feldarbeit-eb.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.feldarbeit-eb.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1452"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.feldarbeit-eb.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1452\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.feldarbeit-eb.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1254"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.feldarbeit-eb.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1452"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.feldarbeit-eb.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1452"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}