I'm sitting here at my desk thinking about the many couples – or should I say: the many people in their complex relationship networks – that I've encountered over the last few years. What have I learned from this? That I don't really know anything. And that is precisely where my strength as a therapist lies.
80 to 85 per cent of the couples I work with today live in some form of open relationship. And of course, most of them come to me because it's not easy to make it work. But when it does work, it's an art form, an update of the relationship.
My promise to everyone who comes to me is simple: I come from a place of not knowing. I don't have any ready-made answers. I don't know anything about your specific situation. I have no idea about your circumstances. I don't even know enough about my own relationships. But together we can open up a greater space of awareness in which more can reveal itself, creating more space for healing and your personal answers.
This is my invitation: Let us look together at what is there and honour what remains hidden.